If you tell me that a father defending his daughter or protecting his little girl as she grows into the age of dating is patriarchy and something to be discouraged, in my mind I’m hoping you trip and fall on your face.. hard. Enjoy the road burn.
It’s not about ownership, it’s “that’s my little girl. Be good to her or I will hurt you.”
oh but if it was a mother she’d be mother of the fucking year.
jfc this website is literally impossibly retarded
No but you don’t understand. It’s not about dads being nice and trying to protect their daughters. It’s them literally believing that they have possession over their daughters life. It’s about not letting her go to party’s with friends because “I won’t get time with you”. It’s about putting a camera and gps in her car to make sure their are no boys or traffic violations. But really it’s just because he doesn’t trust you not to leave. It’s about forbidding social interaction just because he might not get as much time with his precious daughter. This is the kind of dad that is too protective. To the point where it’s detrimental to growth both socially and mentally. He chalks it all up to wanting to protect his baby girl and to not have anyone hurt her, but really is being a manipulative little fuck about everything with a mask of father of the year. Because when a boy truly does hurt her, what does her father say? I told you so. Should I go hurt him because I’ve wanted to since day one. No one gets to hurt my girl. But her father has hurt her more than that boy ever did. And no, that boy does not deserve to be beaten by a man over twice his age. She loved him. Why would she want that? No, I don’t think you guys understand. There’s a lot more to it than what you think and it’s not just pissy ass teenagers spewing shit because their daddy didn’t let them go on a date with a boy until they got to high school. This is different.
First of all, I’m not talking about the overbearing, overprotective, crazy psycho father. I’m talking about your everyday, run of the mill dad. Or hell, older brothers for that matter. Even my husband says things about his 13 year old sister like “No, she can’t date. I was a teenage boy. No one is allowed to date my sister. ” Is he gonna run them off at gun point? NO, he’s just saying.. She’s my lil sister and I want to make sure she’s okay and no one takes advantage of her.
Are you serious? I know a lot of my high school and college friend’s father’s and ya know what? When their daughters got hurt, 95% of them said “He’s not worth your time princess” (or something similar) and banned whoever it was from coming back to their house unless they earned back some respect from their dad.
That might be YOUR experience, but I’ve never heard a father say “I told you so.” And what paranoid looney toon puts a camera and a gps in anyone’s car? This is the kind of deranged shit that people say that simply DOES NOT HAPPEN in the MAJORITY of cases. Does it happen? Sure… and it happens with mother’s too. Trying to protect their children and going overboard.
Mother or Father, that’s your child and you’re trying to save them from heartache and it’s not fucking malicious to want to save them from that with a warning to be careful, and a warning to whomever is taking them out. And for the record, I don’t know anyone’s father who actually BEAT UP the guy, the ones I know simply said “Stay away from my house, stay away from my daughter and don’t call here.”
It’s called parenting.
And in case it wasn’t clear the first time. I don’t mean the psycho clingy overbearing parents.. I mean, regular normal people who are protective.